"Am I In Over My Head?"
Learning if I have enough resources to help a disciple see growth in sexual wholeness or if I need to connect this person to an expert.
To help you discern whether or not these resources will be sufficient and appropriate, or if it is time to partner with an expert, consider how you would answer these questions.
- Does this person have instances of sexual abuse in their past that relate to their present struggles?
- Is this person viewing porn multiple times per week?
- Is this person acting out sexually with another person regularly?
- Is their sexual activity negatively affecting their everyday life responsibilities? (relationships, school, work, etc?)
- Did this person confess viewing or doing anything illegal?
- Does this person’s sexual behavior seem out of control?
Answering yes to any of these questions does not mean you have to stop meeting with this person or that you can’t help them grow in their walk with God and towards sexual wholeness, but the resources and help others can provide for them may not be sufficient and you might want to consider partnering with the experts (see below).
Partnering with Experts
Seeking a counselor is a step toward taking responsibility, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards change in one’s life. Find a Christian counselor who is knowledgeable about sexual addiction or is a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT).
*IITAP CSAT’s are not necessarily Christians
**Coming soon, an article for how to find a good counselor!
2 day to 2 week programs that focus on education and small group community to help identify root issues and develop a clear path forward.
SheRecovery offers groups, resources, coaching, and events for women struggling with pornography and sexual addiction.