"Am I In Over My Head?"

Feeling Overwhelmed?

Learning if I have enough resources to help a disciple see growth in sexual wholeness or if I need to connect this person to an expert.

As a win-build-send missionary organization, we care deeply about meeting people where they are and connecting them with Jesus. Sometimes, due to a level of severity or specialization needed, we are not the appropriate person to address the needs.

To help you discern whether or not these resources will be sufficient and appropriate, or if it is time to partner with an expert, consider how you would answer these questions.

  1. Does this person have instances of sexual abuse in their past that relate to their present struggles?
  2. Is this person viewing porn multiple times per week?
  3. Is this person acting out sexually with another person regularly?
  4. Is their sexual activity negatively affecting their everyday life responsibilities? (relationships, school, work, etc?)
  5. Did this person confess viewing or doing anything illegal?
  6. Does this person’s sexual behavior seem out of control?

Answering yes to any of these questions does not mean you have to stop meeting with this person or that you can’t help them grow in their walk with God and towards sexual wholeness, but the resources and help others can provide for them may not be sufficient and you might want to consider partnering with the experts (see below).

Partnering with Experts

Counselor Referrals

Seeking a counselor is a step toward taking responsibility, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards change in one’s life. Find a Christian counselor who is knowledgeable about sexual addiction or is a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT).

Focus on the Family counselor referral
1-855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m (MT)

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) referral

*IITAP CSAT’s are not necessarily Christians

**Coming soon, an article for how to find a good counselor!


2 day to 2 week programs that focus on education and small group community to help identify root issues and develop a clear path forward.


Restoring the Soul Intensive is the intensive counseling ministry of Michael Cusik, author of Surfing for God. Colorado Springs, CO
Men of Valor Intensives are three-day events of teaching and small group interaction led by Dr. Mark Laaser, a Christian leader in the field of sexual addiction. Eden Prairie, MN
Healing Workshops for Women is a four-day recovery intensive for women who personally struggle with sex and love addiction. Nashville, TN

Recovery Ministries

Faithful and True is a ministry that focuses on recovery for men and has many resources for spouses as well. They provide counseling and intensive weekends.

SheRecovery offers groups, resources, coaching, and events for women struggling with pornography and sexual addiction.

Pure Desire Ministries offers groups around the country, has a network of counselors, and a plethora of other resources for helping people struggling with sexual addiction.
Not over your head?  Check out the resources!